Wednesday, December 10, 2014

LILLY'S STORY....PART 4...LILLY DOESN'T LIKE GENTLEMEN CALLERS

I originally thought I would do 3 or 4 parts to this blog and tell about Lilly and my life with her.  I now don't know  how may I will write.  I will know when to stop, just like I knew when to say goodbye to her.  Maybe I am not ready to say goodbye again yet, so I will just keep writing and sharing with you.

When Lilly's other dad left, after a period of time and adjustment, I thought I'd start dating and hopefully find a different "other dad" for her.  It seemed like a smart idea, as I,  at the time had never been without a partner, and wasn't feeling like I could be a single guy forever.  Also, there are three to a "pack" and she was showing signs of sadness over her pack breaking up.

Where to start.  I met Lilly's other dad on a "hook up" site for just  a one night stand.  That lasted 8 years, so I thought I'd do that again.  Things changed a lot in eight years (including me). I wanted to make sure I found just the right "step dad" for her, so I went by the rule of "practice makes perfect.....".

Lilly seemed to instinctively  know that Adam 4 Adam was not going to be the place.  I would even show her who was coming over, holding her up to the laptop asking what she thought.  I swear this is true.  She never had any interest and just would jump off my lap.  When my practice dads would show up, she would get a Mohawk down her back, and mad dog them until I could get her into the other room.  This went on for a while, until I finally
met someone worthwhile.  It wasn't from a site, it was just a chance meeting.  Lilly didn't like him right away.  He was patient as I told him how important she was to me.

One night about a month into knowing him,  he came over as usual to pick me up for dinner.  Up until this point she had been  indifferent with him.  He was patient and persistent and always was  attentive to her.  For some reason, this time when he came into Lilly's apartment, she said "Hello" to him  in her guttural voice that  I have told you about.

He did a double take, as he thought I was teasing him  about her talking.  He laughed so hard, and she wagged her tail, for the first time with him.  He knelt down and she kissed his face.  Since this was a big deal to him, he asked if we could order in, as he wanted to take advantage of this new progress.

He talked back to her in the same type of voice, and she jumped into his lap.  This was a huge change, and I thought well, maybe this is her step dad.  The truth is, he was handsome, sweet, fun, and now liked by Lilly.  I just hate to say this, but the first guy you date after an 8 year marriage is never going to be the one.  I made a lot of mistakes, and just wasn't putting in a lot of effort.

Obviously, it was just Lilly and I again.

LILLY'S STORY....PART 5 NEXT......DAD, IS HE TOO YOUNG FOR YOU?

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